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modal_operators_verbs [2024/05/24 10:28] – [Practical Application in Non Violent Communication] tommodal_operators_verbs [2025/01/31 15:02] (current) – [Practical Application in IEMT] tom
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-{{tag>Related Believes "Robert Dilts" "Steve Andreas" NLP "Clean language"}} +{{tag>Related Believes "Robert Dilts" "Steve Andreas" NLP "Clean language" "Transactional Analysis" "Non-Violent Communication" }} 
 ====== Modal Verbs ====== ====== Modal Verbs ======
  
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-==== Practical Application in IEMT ====+===== Practical Application in IEMT =====
  
 These linguistic markers often reveal underlying beliefs and cognitive patterns that shape an individual's emotional responses and behaviors – or in IEMT terms an imprint. By paying close attention to these markers during sessions, practitioners can uncover deep-seated imprints—specific memories and emotional events that significantly influence current issues.  These linguistic markers often reveal underlying beliefs and cognitive patterns that shape an individual's emotional responses and behaviors – or in IEMT terms an imprint. By paying close attention to these markers during sessions, practitioners can uncover deep-seated imprints—specific memories and emotional events that significantly influence current issues. 
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-If you do the second variant, you can eventually get a (problematic?) C-Value identity statement like:+If you do the second variant, you can eventually get a negative Core-Value (C-Value) statement like:
 Lack of value: “I'm not worthy.”, Lack of value: “I'm not worthy.”,
 Lack of authenticity: “I'm a fraud,” “I'm fake.”, Lack of authenticity: “I'm a fraud,” “I'm fake.”,
 Lack of ability: “I'm no good.”, or do a lack, wants, needs and or the Patterns. Lack of ability: “I'm no good.”, or do a lack, wants, needs and or the Patterns.
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 Cave: For both ways it is necessary to have a very agreeable person, high status and or good rapport unless you want to train for three stage overreactions. This isn't easy for most clients, especially if it involves very shameful emotions, you may want to use more indirect means. Cave: For both ways it is necessary to have a very agreeable person, high status and or good rapport unless you want to train for three stage overreactions. This isn't easy for most clients, especially if it involves very shameful emotions, you may want to use more indirect means.
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 +<blockquote>With IEMT you can ask "When did you decide that?"/"When did you learn that?" If there's a memory you can do the K pattern movement or explore the identity bits of the statement
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 > MOs indicate a situation that does not (at the moment) exist (future orientation).  > MOs indicate a situation that does not (at the moment) exist (future orientation). 
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 > Verbally expressed MOs may be incongruent to the (more important) nonverbal [[physiological_state_accessing_cues_psacs|Physiological State Accessing Cues (PSACS)]].  > Verbally expressed MOs may be incongruent to the (more important) nonverbal [[physiological_state_accessing_cues_psacs|Physiological State Accessing Cues (PSACS)]]. 
  
-==== Practical Application in Non Violent Communication ====+> MOs can lead to correspondent Three Pillar like cycles and C-Values we can explore.
  
-<blockquote>We are never angry because of what others say or do; it is a result of our own 'should' thinking.+===== Practical Application in Non Violent Communication =====
  
- > MOs will lead to correspondent three Pillar like cycles we can explore.+<blockquote>We are never angry because of what others say or do; it is a result of our own 'should' thinking. 
 +<cite>Marshall Rosenberg[([[https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Marshall_Rosenberg|Marshall Rosenberg]])]</cite></blockquote>
  
-<cite>Marshall Rosenberg</cite></blockquote>+> From an IEMT point of view this comes close to the lacks needs wants exploration.
  
   * "We are never angry because of what others say or do":   * "We are never angry because of what others say or do":
  
-From the lens of NVC this part of the quote suggests that external events or other people’s behaviors are not the direct cause of our anger. Instead, anger is a signal pointing to something deeper within us. From the IEMT this lens this points an imprint.+From the lens of Non Violent Communication (NVC)[([[https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Nonviolent_Communication| Non Violent Communication(NVC)]])] this part of the quote suggests that external events or other people’s behaviors are not the direct cause of our anger. Instead, anger is a signal pointing to something deeper within us. 
  
   * "It is a result of our own 'should' thinking":   * "It is a result of our own 'should' thinking":
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-===How 'Should' Thinking Leads to Anger through the NVC lens===+====How 'Should' Thinking Leads to Anger through the NVC lens====
 //Unmet Expectations//: //Unmet Expectations//:
  
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 > By addressing the situation through NVC, you shift from anger and judgment to understanding and constructive communication. This approach aligns with Rosenberg’s quote, illustrating that managing our 'should' thinking can transform how we experience and express our emotions. > By addressing the situation through NVC, you shift from anger and judgment to understanding and constructive communication. This approach aligns with Rosenberg’s quote, illustrating that managing our 'should' thinking can transform how we experience and express our emotions.
  
-In IEMT we could identify the Three Pillars, work on the imprints, offer the client alternatives like this.+In IEMT we could identify the Three Pillars, work on the imprints and offer the client strategies like NVC. This is also an interesting in terms of analysing and pointing out the interal dialog from the point of [[Pronouns]] work in IEMT.
  
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-==== Practical Application in Clean Language ====+===== Practical Application in Clean Language =====
  
-In Clean Language(CL) as often reflect deep-seated beliefs and emotional states. Understanding the use of these modal operators in dialogue can help individuals identify and change their metaphors for more positive outcomes. For example:+In Clean Language(CL)[([[https://cleanlanguage.com/|Clean Language]])] as often reflect deep-seated beliefs and emotional states. Understanding the use of these modal operators in dialogue can help individuals identify and change their metaphors for more positive outcomes. For example:
  
  
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 CL offers an exercise to directly work with statements like these: CL offers an exercise to directly work with statements like these:
  
-(1) identify a metaphor for when you are angry and act inappropriately as a result;\\ +  - identify a metaphor for when you are angry and act inappropriately as a result;\\ 
-(2) identify a second metaphor for how you would prefer to respond;\\ +  - identify a second metaphor for how you would prefer to respond;\\ 
-(3) explore how you can convert or evolve the first metaphor into the second;\\ +  - explore how you can convert or evolve the first metaphor into the second;\\ 
-(4) translate your insights into how you can change your behavior in your everyday life;\\ +  - translate your insights into how you can change your behavior in your everyday life;\\ 
-(5) rehearse this new behavior.+  - rehearse this new behavior.
  
 For a more in depth exploration please refer to:  For a more in depth exploration please refer to: 
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-==== Practical Application in NLP ==== +===== Practical Application in NLP ===== 
-=== Steve Andreas ===+==== Steve Andreas ====
 Steve Andreas writes [(:harvard:Andreas2001)]:\\ “A MO, like accessing cues, is both a result of internal processing, and also a way to elicit it. Asking a person to say, “I won’t” rather than “I can’t,” was one of [[Fritz_Perls|Fritz Perls]], favorite ways to get people to take more responsibility for the implicit choices that they made, and feel more empowered by recognizing their ability to choose. Steve Andreas writes [(:harvard:Andreas2001)]:\\ “A MO, like accessing cues, is both a result of internal processing, and also a way to elicit it. Asking a person to say, “I won’t” rather than “I can’t,” was one of [[Fritz_Perls|Fritz Perls]], favorite ways to get people to take more responsibility for the implicit choices that they made, and feel more empowered by recognizing their ability to choose.
  
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-=== Robert Dilts: Changing Belief Systems With NLP ===+==== Robert Dilts: Changing Belief Systems With NLP ====
  
-With Robert Dilts' System you can work with these kind of statements like a belief. His Belief Change Process is a systematic approach within Neuro-Linguistic Programming (NLP) aimed at identifying, understanding, and altering **limiting beliefs** that hinder personal growth and achievement. Developed by Dilts, this process is designed to facilitate deep, lasting change by addressing the core beliefs that shape an individual's behavior and experiences.+With Robert Dilts'[([[http://www.robertdilts.com/|RobertDilts.com]])] System you can work with these kind of statements like a belief. His Belief Change Process is a systematic approach within Neuro-Linguistic Programming (NLP) aimed at identifying, understanding, and altering **limiting beliefs** that hinder personal growth and achievement. Developed by Dilts, this process is designed to facilitate deep, lasting change by addressing the core beliefs that shape an individual's behavior and experiences.
  
 Description of the Process: Description of the Process:
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 +===== Practical Application Transactional Analysis =====
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 +In Transactional Analysis, a modal operator (MO) of necessity, such as "must" or "should," often signals the start of a psychological game when the implied rule or expectation is broken, as it triggers a shift into the Drama Triangle roles of Persecutor, Victim, or Rescuer. 
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 +> From the point of IEMT all three roles are imprints. If you assign a certain feeling to each role you can analyse the emotional chaining.
 +
 +==== Analyzing "I Should Not Get Angry" in Transactional Analysis Using the Drama Triangle ====
 +Transactional Analysis (TA)[([[https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Transactional_analysis|Transactional Analysis]])] is a psychological framework developed by Eric Berne[([[https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Eric_Berne|Eric Berne]])] that explores interactions (transactions) between individuals based on three ego states: Parent, Adult, and Child. The Drama Triangle[([[https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Karpman_drama_triangle|Drama Triangle]])], created by Stephen Karpman, is a model used in TA and Structural Analysis to describe dysfunctional social interactions. It consists of three roles: Persecutor, Victim, and Rescuer.
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 +This session aims to analyze the statement "I should not get angry" using the Drama Triangle.
 +
 +==== Initial Statement ====
 +Client: "I should not get angry."
 +
 +=== Identifying the Ego State ===
 +In TA, the statement "I should not get angry" likely comes from the Parent ego state, specifically the Critical Parent, which imposes rules and judgments.
 +{{ :karpman_triangle.png?nolink}}
 +=== Exploring the Drama Triangle ===
 +The Drama Triangle involves three roles:
 +  - **Persecutor:** Blames or criticizes others.
 +  - **Victim:** Feels oppressed or helpless.
 +  - **Rescuer:** Tries to help or save others, often without being asked.
 +
 +Let's analyze how these roles play out in the context of the statement.
 +
 +==== Scenario Analysis ====
 +
 +**Scenario 1: Client as Victim**
 +  - **Victim:** The client feels they must suppress their anger, seeing themselves as powerless to express their true feelings.
 +  - **Persecutor:** The internalized Critical Parent tells the client, "You should not get angry," creating self-criticism.
 +  - **Rescuer:** The client might seek external validation or someone to soothe them, reinforcing their Victim stance.
 +
 +**Example Dialogue:**
 +  - Client: "I should not get angry because it's wrong."
 +  - Therapist: "When you say 'should not,' whose voice do you hear? Is it someone from your past?"
 +  - Client: "It sounds like my father. He always told me that anger is bad."
 +
 +**Therapist's Approach:**
 +  - Help the client recognize the Critical Parent's influence.
 +  - Encourage shifting to the Adult ego state to assess the validity of this belief.
 +  - Explore the unmet needs behind the anger (e.g., need for respect or acknowledgment).
 +
 +**Scenario 2: Client as Persecutor**
 +  - **Persecutor:** The client directs anger inwardly, blaming themselves for feeling anger.
 +  - **Victim:** The part of the client that feels hurt by this self-blame.
 +  - **Rescuer:** The client might try to rationalize or suppress their feelings to avoid self-criticism.
 +
 +**Example Dialogue:**
 +  - Client: "I get so mad at myself for feeling angry."
 +  - Therapist: "It sounds like there's a harsh inner critic. What does this critic say to you?"
 +  - Client: "It says I'm weak for getting angry."
 +
 +**Therapist's Approach:**
 +  - Identify the self-critical Persecutor role.
 +  - Facilitate self-compassion and understanding.
 +  - Guide the client towards the Adult ego state to evaluate these self-judgments.
 +
 +**Scenario 3: Client as Rescuer**
 +  - **Rescuer:** The client tries to prevent their own anger to 'rescue' themselves or others from conflict.
 +  - **Victim:** The client feels oppressed by their own or others' expectations to stay calm.
 +  - **Persecutor:** Could be internal (self-criticism) or external (someone who taught them anger is unacceptable).
 +
 +**Example Dialogue:**
 +  - Client: "I always try to stay calm to keep the peace."
 +  - Therapist: "What happens if you do express your anger?"
 +  - Client: "I fear people will reject me."
 +
 +**Therapist's Approach:**
 +  - Explore the fear of rejection and its origins.
 +  - Address the rescuing behavior and its impact on the client's well-being.
 +  - Encourage expression of feelings in a healthy, assertive manner.
 +
 +==== Moving Out of the Drama Triangle ====
 +To move out of the Drama Triangle, the client needs to transition from reactive roles to a more empowered stance. This involves:
 +  - **Awareness:** Recognize when they are in the Drama Triangle.
 +  - **Adult Ego State:** Use the Adult ego state to assess situations objectively and make conscious choices.
 +  - **Assertiveness:** Express feelings and needs directly without blaming or rescuing.
 +
 +**Example Dialogue:**
 +  - Therapist: "How can you express your anger in a way that honors your feelings without hurting others?"
 +  - Client: "I can say, 'I feel upset when my needs are not considered,' instead of keeping it inside."
 +
 +==== Conclusion ====
 +By using TA and the Drama Triangle, the client can understand the dynamics behind their statement "I should not get angry" and work towards healthier ways of managing and expressing emotions. This involves shifting from Parent or Child ego states to the Adult ego state and stepping out of the Drama Triangle roles.
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